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(Abu Dawud - It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases)
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===Sahih Muslim===
===Sahih Muslim===


==== It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases (that cover too much)====
====It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases (that cover too much)====


{{Quote|<!-- http://searchtruth.com/searchHadith.php?keyword=the+words+of+the+husband+to+his+wife&translator=2&search=1&book=&start http://www.webcitation.org/query?url=http%3A%2F%2Fsearchtruth.com%2FsearchHadith.php%3Fkeyword%3Dthe%2Bwords%2Bof%2Bthe%2Bhusband%2Bto%2Bhis%2Bwife%26translator%3D2%26search%3D1%26book%3D%26start&date=2012-02-25 -->{{Muslim|32|6303}}|Humaid b. 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Auf reported that his mother Umm Kulthum daughter of 'Uqba b. Abu Mu'ait, and she was one amongst the first emigrants who pledged allegiance to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him), as saying that she heard Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: '''A liar is not one who tries to bring reconciliation amongst people and speaks good (in order to avert dispute), or he conveys good'''. Ibn Shihab said he did not hear that exemption was granted in anything what the people speak as lie but in three cases: '''in battle, for bringing reconciliation amongst persons and the narration of the words of the husband to his wife, and the narration of the words of a wife to her husband''' (in a twisted form in order to bring reconciliation between them).}}
{{Quote|<!-- http://searchtruth.com/searchHadith.php?keyword=the+words+of+the+husband+to+his+wife&translator=2&search=1&book=&start http://www.webcitation.org/query?url=http%3A%2F%2Fsearchtruth.com%2FsearchHadith.php%3Fkeyword%3Dthe%2Bwords%2Bof%2Bthe%2Bhusband%2Bto%2Bhis%2Bwife%26translator%3D2%26search%3D1%26book%3D%26start&date=2012-02-25 -->{{Muslim|32|6303}}|Humaid b. 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Auf reported that his mother Umm Kulthum daughter of 'Uqba b. Abu Mu'ait, and she was one amongst the first emigrants who pledged allegiance to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him), as saying that she heard Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: '''A liar is not one who tries to bring reconciliation amongst people and speaks good (in order to avert dispute), or he conveys good'''. Ibn Shihab said he did not hear that exemption was granted in anything what the people speak as lie but in three cases: '''in battle, for bringing reconciliation amongst persons and the narration of the words of the husband to his wife, and the narration of the words of a wife to her husband''' (in a twisted form in order to bring reconciliation between them).}}
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Because the hadith allows lying to:  
Because the hadith allows lying to:  


* Enemies ("in battle", see [[Taqiyya]])
*Enemies ("in battle", see [[Taqiyya]])
* Friends ("bringing reconciliation amongst persons")
*Friends ("bringing reconciliation amongst persons")
* Husband to his wife, and a wife to her husband
*Husband to his wife, and a wife to her husband


See also: [[Qur%27an,_Hadith_and_Scholars:Lying_and_Deception#It.27s_not_lawful_to_lie_except_in_3_cases_.28that_cover_too_much.29]] (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 4:25:1939)
See also: [[Qur%27an,_Hadith_and_Scholars:Lying_and_Deception#It.27s_not_lawful_to_lie_except_in_3_cases_.28that_cover_too_much.29]] (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 4:25:1939)
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{{Quote|{{Muslim|19|4436}}|It has been narrated on the authority of Jabir that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Who will kill Ka'b b. Ashraf? He has maligned Allah, the Exalted, and His Messenger. Muhammad b. Maslama said: Messenger of Allah, do you wish that I should kill him? He said: Yes. He said: '''Permit me to talk (to him in the way I deem fit). He said: Talk (as you like)'''. So, Muhammad b. Maslama came to Ka'b and talked to him, referred to the old friendship between them and said: This man (i. e. the Holy Prophet) has made up his mind to collect charity (from us) and this has put us to a great hardship. When be heard this, Ka'b said: By God, you will be put to more trouble by him. Muhammad b. Maslama said: No doubt, now we have become his followers and we do not like to forsake him until we see what turn his affairs will take. I want that you should give me a loan. He said: What will you mortgage? He said: What do you want? He said: Pledge me your women. He said: You are the most handsome of the Arabs; should we pledge our women to you? He said: Pledge me your children. He said: The son of one of us may abuse us saying that he was pledged for two wasqs of dates, but we can pledge you (cur) weapons. He said: All right. Then Muhammad b. Maslama promised that he would come to him with Harith, Abu 'Abs b. Jabr and Abbad b. Bishr. So they came and called upon him at night. He came down to them. Sufyan says that all the narrators except 'Amr have stated that his wife said: I hear a voice which sounds like the voice of murder. He said: It is only Muhammad b. Maslama and his foster-brother, Abu Na'ila. When a gentleman is called at night even it to be pierced with a spear, he should respond to the call. Muhammad said to his companions: As he comes down, I will extend my hands towards his head and when I hold him fast, you should do your job. So when he came down and he was holding his cloak under his arm, they said to him: '''We sense from you a very fine smell. He said: Yes, I have with me a mistress who is the most scented of the women of Arabia. He said: Allow me to smell (the scent on your head). He said: Yes, you may smell. So he caught it and smelt. Then he said: Allow me to do so (once again). He then held his head fast and said to his companions: Do your job. And they killed him'''.}}
{{Quote|{{Muslim|19|4436}}|It has been narrated on the authority of Jabir that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Who will kill Ka'b b. Ashraf? He has maligned Allah, the Exalted, and His Messenger. Muhammad b. Maslama said: Messenger of Allah, do you wish that I should kill him? He said: Yes. He said: '''Permit me to talk (to him in the way I deem fit). He said: Talk (as you like)'''. So, Muhammad b. Maslama came to Ka'b and talked to him, referred to the old friendship between them and said: This man (i. e. the Holy Prophet) has made up his mind to collect charity (from us) and this has put us to a great hardship. When be heard this, Ka'b said: By God, you will be put to more trouble by him. Muhammad b. Maslama said: No doubt, now we have become his followers and we do not like to forsake him until we see what turn his affairs will take. I want that you should give me a loan. He said: What will you mortgage? He said: What do you want? He said: Pledge me your women. He said: You are the most handsome of the Arabs; should we pledge our women to you? He said: Pledge me your children. He said: The son of one of us may abuse us saying that he was pledged for two wasqs of dates, but we can pledge you (cur) weapons. He said: All right. Then Muhammad b. Maslama promised that he would come to him with Harith, Abu 'Abs b. Jabr and Abbad b. Bishr. So they came and called upon him at night. He came down to them. Sufyan says that all the narrators except 'Amr have stated that his wife said: I hear a voice which sounds like the voice of murder. He said: It is only Muhammad b. Maslama and his foster-brother, Abu Na'ila. When a gentleman is called at night even it to be pierced with a spear, he should respond to the call. Muhammad said to his companions: As he comes down, I will extend my hands towards his head and when I hold him fast, you should do your job. So when he came down and he was holding his cloak under his arm, they said to him: '''We sense from you a very fine smell. He said: Yes, I have with me a mistress who is the most scented of the women of Arabia. He said: Allow me to smell (the scent on your head). He said: Yes, you may smell. So he caught it and smelt. Then he said: Allow me to do so (once again). He then held his head fast and said to his companions: Do your job. And they killed him'''.}}


=== Jami` at-Tirmidhi ===
===Jami` at-Tirmidhi===
==== It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases (that cover too much)====
====It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases (that cover too much)====
{{Quote|{{Al Tirmidhi||4|25|1939}} ({{external link| url = https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi/27/45| title = sunnah.com | author = | date = | archiveurl = | deadurl = no}})|
{{Quote|{{Al Tirmidhi||4|25|1939}} ({{external link| url = https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi/27/45| title = sunnah.com | author = | date = | archiveurl = | deadurl = no}})|
Asma bint Yazid narrated that the Messenger of Allah said:
Asma bint Yazid narrated that the Messenger of Allah said:
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Because the hadith allows lying to:  
Because the hadith allows lying to:  
* From husband to wife (and from wife to husband, if Sahih Muslim 2605a is considered or this hadith is fully translated into English)
 
* Enemies ("during war", see [[Taqiyya]])
*From husband to wife (and from wife to husband, if Sahih Muslim 2605a is considered or this hadith is fully translated into English)
* Friends ("to bring peace between people")
*Enemies ("during war", see [[Taqiyya]])
*Friends ("to bring peace between people")


The question arises whether there is any case for lying that doesn't fall into these three cases.
The question arises whether there is any case for lying that doesn't fall into these three cases.
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When the Prophet (peace be upon him) intended to go on an expedition, he always pretended to be going somewhere else, and he would say: '''War is deception'''.}}
When the Prophet (peace be upon him) intended to go on an expedition, he always pretended to be going somewhere else, and he would say: '''War is deception'''.}}


==== It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases (that cover too much)====
====It's not lawful to lie except in 3 cases (that cover too much)====
{{Quote|{{Abudawud|41|4903}} (not available) - {{external link| url =https://sunnah.com/abudawud:4921| title = mirror on sunnah.com | author = | date = | archiveurl = | deadurl = no}}|Chapter: Reconciliation
{{Quote|{{Abudawud|41|4903}} (not available) - {{external link| url =https://sunnah.com/abudawud:4921| title = mirror on sunnah.com | author = | date = | archiveurl = | deadurl = no}}|Chapter: Reconciliation


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Because the hadith allows a Muslim man to lie to:  
Because the hadith allows a Muslim man to lie to:  
* Friends ("puts things right between people")
 
* Enemies ("who says something in war", see [[Taqiyya]])
*Friends ("puts things right between people")
* Man who says something to his wife, or a wife who says something to her husband.
*Enemies ("who says something in war", see [[Taqiyya]])
*Man who says something to his wife, or a wife who says something to her husband.


The question arises whether there is any case for lying that doesn't fall into these three cases.
The question arises whether there is any case for lying that doesn't fall into these three cases.
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4 - one does not swear to the half-truth in the name of Allah [Ibn Muflih, al-Adab al-Shar`iyyah]}}
4 - one does not swear to the half-truth in the name of Allah [Ibn Muflih, al-Adab al-Shar`iyyah]}}


{{Quote|{{cite web quotebox|url=https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/328687/|title= Asking for Khul’ because husband lied about second marriage|publisher=IslamWeb|author= |series= Fatwa No. 328687|date=30-6-2016 - Ramadan 25, 1437|archiveurl=https://web.archive.org/web/20210725172806/https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/328687/|deadurl=no}}|<b>Question:</b>
{{Quote|{{cite web quotebox|url=https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/328687/|title= Asking for Khul’ because husband lied about second marriage|publisher=IslamWeb|author= |series= Fatwa No. 328687|date=30-6-2016 - Ramadan 25, 1437|archiveurl=https://archive.ph/LK0RS|deadurl=no}}|<b>Question:</b>


Assalaamu alaykum. I have been married for 15 years and have three kids. <b>My husband has remarried without informing me and has been lying to me for the past year, creating mistrust between us.</b> He has finally admitted his second marriage to me after extensive arguments. I have asked for a divorce as we are not compatible. He does not want to tell his family about his second marriage. His second wife has four kids, and he also has not told her kids and family about their marriage. They are both living a secret marriage. I feel that I cannot trust him because he has been lying to me for a whole year. Prior to him admitting his second marriage, I had called a meeting with our parents and told them that we constantly argue about his whereabouts and that he denied that he married again. I then went to a mufti and he also denied his marriage, so the mufti advised us to reconcile our marriage. I only stayed in this marriage because of my kids; I am a housewife who fears Allaah. I have tried my best to overlook his lies. Yes, I have been unhappy in this marriage for a long time as he is a very difficult person to please and I have tried, but I cannot do it anymore. We argue a lot, which led to disrespect, and my religion is the only reason that I am still in this marriage. I want to request a Khul’. Please advise what steps should be taken, Allaah willing.
Assalaamu alaykum. I have been married for 15 years and have three kids. <b>My husband has remarried without informing me and has been lying to me for the past year, creating mistrust between us.</b> He has finally admitted his second marriage to me after extensive arguments. I have asked for a divorce as we are not compatible. He does not want to tell his family about his second marriage. His second wife has four kids, and he also has not told her kids and family about their marriage. They are both living a secret marriage. I feel that I cannot trust him because he has been lying to me for a whole year. Prior to him admitting his second marriage, I had called a meeting with our parents and told them that we constantly argue about his whereabouts and that he denied that he married again. I then went to a mufti and he also denied his marriage, so the mufti advised us to reconcile our marriage. I only stayed in this marriage because of my kids; I am a housewife who fears Allaah. I have tried my best to overlook his lies. Yes, I have been unhappy in this marriage for a long time as he is a very difficult person to please and I have tried, but I cannot do it anymore. We argue a lot, which led to disrespect, and my religion is the only reason that I am still in this marriage. I want to request a Khul’. Please advise what steps should be taken, Allaah willing.
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