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| ==Gender Parity of the 'Iddah Regulations== | | ==Gender Parity of the 'Iddah Regulations== |
| Defenders of the traditional Islamic 'iddah claim that a woman has to stay in the house of husband for 3 menstrual cycles during the process of divorce, while this could provide them with the chance to reconcile<ref>Staying in husband's home during the process of divorce.[https://abukhadeejah.com/divorce-talaq-iddah-remarriage-khula/]</ref>. | | Defenders of the traditional Islamic 'iddah claim that a woman has to stay in the house of husband for 3 menstrual cycles during the process of divorce, while this could provide them with the chance to reconcile<ref>Staying in husband's home during the process of divorce.[https://abukhadeejah.com/divorce-talaq-iddah-remarriage-khula/]</ref>. Although the possibility of reconciling and healing the family is noble, no consideration is given to the interest of a woman in a potentially abusive relationship who may want to leave her husbands presence as quickly as possible, and no such restrictions are placed on the man. Moreover, if the triple talaaq was invoked or he had invoked the singular talaaq one time, they cannot get back together after the 'iddah without the semi-legal institution of the halalah or tahleel marriage, precluding family reconciliation altogether. Also not taken into consideration is the possibility that distance and time might solve some of the problems the couple are facing. |
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| But Islam critics object to this process of divorce, and ask:
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| *But what if the husband is an abusive evil person? What if he tortures her all this period without any reason? What if he beats her so wildly that she gets bruises all over her body? Why they still she has to still stay with such an abusive husband for 3 months? (Please read the [[Khul']] article, that woman could not get her freedom through Khul', even if the husband is abusive and tortures her. Only if he breaks any part of her body, in that case she could get her freedom through the court)
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| *Only the woman is forced to sacrifice in the name of so-called “reconcilement” in this Islamic Talaq process, while husband has to bring no sacrifice. He is free to have sex with all other wives and slave girls during this whole period of 3 months.
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| *Is there any guarantee that this dispute between husband and wife is going to resolve in 3 months time of Talaq process?
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| *Is it not possible that it may take more than 3 months that both of them come back in their senses and end the dispute after this period? For example, a man comes back to his senses after 1 years, and realises that it was a mistake to divorce his wife and she was totally innocent. Then what are the options available there to undo this mistake? The answer is, there are NO more options available, while she could not return to him without undergoing the process of Halala, which is considered as a shameful process. So, what then is the 'Divine Wisdom' in this ruling, which limits this reconcilationary period to only 3 menstrual cycles?
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| *Islam compels the woman to stay in the house of husband during the process of Talaq. While it has been seen that in cases of disputes, it could also be helpful that both parties take a break from each other and live separately for some period of time.
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| *This provides both parties with chance to ponder upon, and to learn from their mistakes in a better way and they realise their mistakes in a better way.
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| *When wife has to face the difficulties in living in house of her parents or brothers/sisters, then she realises quickly the importance of house of her husband. And when husband has to do all the work in the house alone, and has to take care of the children alone too, then he also realises his mistake quickly.
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| *But Islam closed this option for them by ordering the woman for not leaving the husband's house even in case of serious disputes.
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| ==The Triple Talaaq and 'Iddah== | | ==The Triple Talaaq and 'Iddah== |