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==Restrictions upon the women during 'Iddah:== | ==Restrictions upon the women during 'Iddah:== | ||
===First Restriction: She has to obligatorily stay only in the house of Husband during the ‘Iddah=== | === First Restriction: She has to undergo the 'Iddah even without any 'maintenance' money === | ||
According to Sharia'h, If the husband dies: | {{Quote|[https://daruliftaa.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/rules_of_iddat-1.pdf Dar-ul-Ifta]|The '''maintenance and providing of shelter for a woman observing the Iddat of Death are not the responsibility of her in-laws. She also does not have the right to take her maintenance out of the Estate of her deceased husband.'''}} | ||
Thus Islam Critics point out that: | |||
* A woman has to no choice, but to compulsorily under to the 'Iddah of period of 4 months and 10 days (or up to 9 months in case of pregnancy), but she has no right for maintenance money from the estate of her husband for this long period of time. | |||
* This is a huge financial burden upon the women, who often don't even have any source of income in the Islamic countries. | |||
===Second Restriction: She has to obligatorily stay only in the house of Husband during the ‘Iddah=== | |||
According to the Islamic Sharia'h, If the husband dies: | |||
*then a woman has to stay ONLY in the house of her husband during this whole period of 'Iddah. | *then a woman has to stay ONLY in the house of her husband during this whole period of 'Iddah. | ||
*She is not allowed to spend this time of 'Iddah in any other place (like house of her parents or any other family members)<ref>Fatwas Website Islamqa.Org. [https://web.archive.org/web/20211028112250/https://islamqa.org/hanafi/askmufti/45291/laws-of-the-iddat/ Laws of Iddat].</ref>. | *She is not allowed to spend this time of 'Iddah in any other place (like house of her parents or any other family members)<ref>Fatwas Website Islamqa.Org. [https://web.archive.org/web/20211028112250/https://islamqa.org/hanafi/askmufti/45291/laws-of-the-iddat/ Laws of Iddat].</ref><ref>[https://islamqa.info/en/answers/10670/what-a-recently-widowed-woman-is-not-allowed-to-do Islam Question Answer Fatwa Website]</ref>. | ||
Islam critics object here that: | Islam critics object here that: | ||
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*What does that have to do with the ‘parentage’ of the child where does she live after the death of her husband? | *What does that have to do with the ‘parentage’ of the child where does she live after the death of her husband? | ||
*Why could she not spend the waiting period in the house of her parents, where she feels comfortable and where she is among the people who love her? | *Why could she not spend the waiting period in the house of her parents, where she feels comfortable and where she is among the people who love her? | ||
* | *And in the house of her husband, she could be all alone, and she has to live like she is in a Solitary confinement. | ||
*Moreover, it could be a huge mental torture for women to live for 4 long months in the house where their husbands died. | *Moreover, it could be a huge mental torture for many women to live for 4 long months (or upto 9 months in case of pregnancy) in the house where their husbands died. There is absolutely no problem if she spends this waiting period anywhere else if she is feeling mental pressure by living in her husband's house. | ||
=== | ===She has to stay in the husband’s house, even if it doesn’t belong to her husband, or even if he hasn’t left any maintenance money for the wife=== | ||
{{Quote|{{Abudawud||2293|hasan}}|Furay'ah said that she came to the Messenger of Allah and asked him whether she could return to her people, Banu Khidrah, for her husband went out seeking his slaves who ran away. When they met him at al-Qudum, they murdered him. | {{Quote|{{Abudawud||2293|hasan}}|Furay'ah said that she came to the Messenger of Allah and asked him whether she could return to her people, Banu Khidrah, for her husband went out seeking his slaves who ran away. When they met him at al-Qudum, they murdered him. | ||
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She said: So I passed my waiting period in it (her house) for four months and ten days. When Uthman ibn Affan became caliph, he sent for me and asked me about that; so I informed him, '''and he followed it and decided cases accordingly'''.}} | She said: So I passed my waiting period in it (her house) for four months and ten days. When Uthman ibn Affan became caliph, he sent for me and asked me about that; so I informed him, '''and he followed it and decided cases accordingly'''.}} | ||
Thus Islam Critics raise the objections that: | |||
Why is she compelled to bear the expenses of her daily needs | * How is it a 'justice' with a woman that firstly she is compelled to live in that house, and secondly then also to pay for the rent? | ||
* Why is she compelled to bear the expenses of her daily needs at her own, while her family could take care of her easily if she stays in the house of her parents/brothers/sisters. | |||
===Third Restriction: She could not leave the house even for daily walks, or visit the relatives or attend any social gathering=== | ===Third Restriction: She could not leave the house even for daily walks, or visit the relatives or attend any social gathering=== | ||
{{Quote|[https://web.archive.org/web/20211014113704/https://islamqa.org/hanafi/askmufti/45453/visiting-relatives-in-iddat/ IslamQA Fatwa Website]|'''Question''': Is a woman allowed to visit family members like her parents or sisters if she is observing iddat and use the excuse that she will be with her family so she doesn’t see the problem?</br> | |||
'''Answer''': A woman who has been divorced is not allowed to leave the confines of her home during the iddat for whatever reason, '''be it to visit friends or relatives or to attend the funeral of even her parents'''.}} | |||
She could also not go outside for daily walks, as they are not a necessity ([https://web.archive.org/web/20211014114224/https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/349861/woman-in-iddah-may-go-out-for-need Fatwa 1], [https://web.archive.org/web/20211014114300/https://idealwoman.org/2021/can-a-woman-go-out-for-a-walk-during-iddat/ Fatwa 2]). | |||
Islam Critics object that: | |||
* Women are also human beings. They thus also need to entertain themselves by going out in the parks, and daily walks, and shopping, and eating in restaurants, attending the parties, sleeping at her parents house, visiting her relatives etc. | |||
* All these restrictions are non-Natural and against the human nature. | |||
* And putting these restrictions 'unilaterally' only upon the women does not constitute to 'doing Justice with the women'. | |||
===Fourth Restriction: She could not even use collyrium/kohl in eyes despite eye disease, while it beautifies her=== | ===Fourth Restriction: She could not even use collyrium/kohl in eyes despite eye disease, while it beautifies her=== | ||
Although a woman is allowed to take medical care during ‘Iddah, still she should not use collyrium/kohl as a cure even against any eye disease, while it beautifies her. | Although a woman is allowed to take medical care during ‘Iddah, still she should not use collyrium/kohl as a cure even against any eye disease, while it beautifies her. | ||
{{Quote|{{Bukhari||68|81|in-book}}|Um Salama said that a woman came to Allah's Messenger and said, "O Allah's Messenger ! The husband of my daughter has died and she is suffering from an eye disease. Can she apply collyrium/kohl to her eye?" Allah's Messenger replied, "No," twice or thrice. (Every time she repeated her question) he said, "No."}} | |||
===Fifth Restriction: Women are not allowed to use good clothes, jewelry, perfume, Henna and comb the hairs with only leaves of lote-tree=== | === Fifth Restriction: Women are not allowed to use good clothes, jewelry, perfume, Henna and comb the hairs with only leaves of lote-tree === | ||
Mishkat al-Masabih 3333:<blockquote>Umm Salama said: God’s Messenger came to visit me when Abu Salama died, and I had put the juice of aloes on myself. He asked me what it was, and I told him it was only the juice of aloes and contained no perfume, so he said, “It gives the face a glow, so apply it only at night and remove it in the daytime, and do not comb yourself with scent or henna, for it is a dye.” I asked God’s Messenger what I should use when combing myself, and he told me to use lote-tree leaves and smear my head copiously with them. | Mishkat al-Masabih 3333:<blockquote>Umm Salama said: God’s Messenger came to visit me when Abu Salama died, and I had put the juice of aloes on myself. He asked me what it was, and I told him it was only the juice of aloes and contained no perfume, so he said, “It gives the face a glow, so apply it only at night and remove it in the daytime, and do not comb yourself with scent or henna, for it is a dye.” I asked God’s Messenger what I should use when combing myself, and he told me to use lote-tree leaves and smear my head copiously with them. | ||