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==Restrictions upon the women during 'Iddah:== | ==Restrictions upon the women during 'Iddah:== | ||
=== First Restriction: She has to undergo the 'Iddah even without any 'maintenance' money === | ===First Restriction: She has to undergo the 'Iddah even without any 'maintenance' money=== | ||
{{Quote|[https://daruliftaa.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/rules_of_iddat-1.pdf Dar-ul-Ifta]|The '''maintenance and providing of shelter for a woman observing the Iddat of Death are not the responsibility of her in-laws. She also does not have the right to take her maintenance out of the Estate of her deceased husband.'''}} | {{Quote|[https://daruliftaa.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/rules_of_iddat-1.pdf Dar-ul-Ifta]|The '''maintenance and providing of shelter for a woman observing the Iddat of Death are not the responsibility of her in-laws. She also does not have the right to take her maintenance out of the Estate of her deceased husband.'''}} | ||
Thus Islam Critics point out that: | Thus Islam Critics point out that: | ||
* A woman has to no choice, but to compulsorily under to the 'Iddah of period of 4 months and 10 days (or up to 9 months in case of pregnancy), but she has no right for maintenance money from the estate of her husband for this long period of time. | *A woman has to no choice, but to compulsorily under to the 'Iddah of period of 4 months and 10 days (or up to 9 months in case of pregnancy), but she has no right for maintenance money from the estate of her husband for this long period of time. | ||
* This is a huge financial burden upon the women, who often don't even have any source of income in the Islamic countries. | *This is a huge financial burden upon the women, who often don't even have any source of income in the Islamic countries. | ||
===Second Restriction: She has to obligatorily stay only in the house of Husband during the ‘Iddah=== | ===Second Restriction: She has to obligatorily stay only in the house of Husband during the ‘Iddah=== | ||
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*Why could she not spend the waiting period in the house of her parents, where she feels comfortable and where she is among the people who love her? | *Why could she not spend the waiting period in the house of her parents, where she feels comfortable and where she is among the people who love her? | ||
*And in the house of her husband, she could be all alone, and she has to live like she is in a Solitary confinement. | *And in the house of her husband, she could be all alone, and she has to live like she is in a Solitary confinement. | ||
*Moreover, it could be a huge mental torture for many women to live for 4 long months (or upto 9 months in case of pregnancy) in the house where their husbands died. There is absolutely no problem if she spends this waiting period anywhere else if she is feeling mental pressure by living in her husband's house. | *Moreover, it could be a huge mental torture for many women to live for 4 long months (or upto 9 months in case of pregnancy) in the house where their husbands died. There is absolutely no problem if she spends this waiting period anywhere else if she is feeling mental pressure by living in her husband's house. | ||
===She has to stay in the husband’s house, even if it doesn’t belong to her husband, or even if he hasn’t left any maintenance money for the wife=== | ===She has to stay in the husband’s house, even if it doesn’t belong to her husband, or even if he hasn’t left any maintenance money for the wife=== | ||
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Thus Islam Critics raise the objections that: | Thus Islam Critics raise the objections that: | ||
* How is it a 'justice' with a woman that firstly she is compelled to live in that house, and secondly then also to pay for the rent? | *How is it a 'justice' with a woman that firstly she is compelled to live in that house, and secondly then also to pay for the rent? | ||
* Why is she compelled to bear the expenses of her daily needs at her own, while her family could take care of her easily if she stays in the house of her parents/brothers/sisters. | *Why is she compelled to bear the expenses of her daily needs at her own, while her family could take care of her easily if she stays in the house of her parents/brothers/sisters. | ||
===Third Restriction: She could not leave the house even for daily walks, or visit the relatives or attend any social gathering=== | ===Third Restriction: She could not leave the house even for daily walks, or visit the relatives or attend any social gathering=== | ||
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Islam Critics object that: | Islam Critics object that: | ||
* Women are also human beings. They thus also need to entertain themselves by going out in the parks, and daily walks, and shopping, and eating in restaurants, attending the parties, sleeping at her parents house, visiting her relatives etc. | *Women are also human beings. They thus also need to entertain themselves by going out in the parks, and daily walks, and shopping, and eating in restaurants, attending the parties, sleeping at her parents house, visiting her relatives etc. | ||
* All these restrictions are non-Natural and against the human nature. | *All these restrictions are non-Natural and against the human nature. | ||
* And putting these restrictions 'unilaterally' only upon the women does not constitute to 'doing Justice with the women'. | *And putting these restrictions 'unilaterally' only upon the women does not constitute to 'doing Justice with the women'. | ||
===Fourth Restriction: She could not even use collyrium/kohl in eyes despite eye disease, while it beautifies her=== | ===Fourth Restriction: She could not even use collyrium/kohl in eyes despite eye disease, while it beautifies her=== | ||
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{{Quote|{{Bukhari||68|81|in-book}}|Um Salama said that a woman came to Allah's Messenger and said, "O Allah's Messenger ! The husband of my daughter has died and she is suffering from an eye disease. Can she apply collyrium/kohl to her eye?" Allah's Messenger replied, "No," twice or thrice. (Every time she repeated her question) he said, "No."}} | {{Quote|{{Bukhari||68|81|in-book}}|Um Salama said that a woman came to Allah's Messenger and said, "O Allah's Messenger ! The husband of my daughter has died and she is suffering from an eye disease. Can she apply collyrium/kohl to her eye?" Allah's Messenger replied, "No," twice or thrice. (Every time she repeated her question) he said, "No."}} | ||
=== Fifth Restriction: Women are not allowed to use good clothes, jewelry, perfume, Henna and comb the hairs | ===Fifth Restriction: Women are not allowed to use good clothes, jewelry, perfume, Henna and to comb the hairs or to oil them=== | ||
Mishkat al-Masabih 3333 | Women in 'Iddah are not allowed to wear good clothes, or jewelry, or use perfume or Henna. Even combing hairs and applying the oil to them is also forbidden<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20211028112250/https://islamqa.org/hanafi/askmufti/45291/laws-of-the-iddat/ IslamQA Fatwa Website]</ref>. And even washing the face with aloe is also forbidden. | ||
{{Quote|[https://sunnah.com/mishkat:3333 Mishkat al-Masabih 3333]|Umm Salama said: God’s Messenger came to visit me when Abu Salama died, and I had put the juice of aloes on myself. He asked me what it was, and I told him it was only the juice of aloes and contained no perfume, so he said, “It gives the face a glow, so apply it only at night and remove it in the daytime, and do not comb yourself with scent or henna, for it is a dye.” I asked God’s Messenger what I should use when combing myself, and he told me to use lote-tree leaves and smear my head copiously with them. Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani declared this Hadith to be FAIR (حسن) (link).}} | |||
=== Sixth Restriction: She should give up her Natural needs of getting any emotional support and attention and love from any other partner during the ‘Iddah === | |||
Islam critics point out that: | |||
* Need of sex is not only limited to men, but it is a natural need of woman too. But Islam does not recognise this right and natural need of a woman, and it has limited it to the man only. Thus, a woman is not allowed to have sex with any partner for this long period of time of ‘Iddah. | |||
Need of sex is not only limited to men, but it is a natural need of woman too. But | * But sex is not the only problem, while divorce or death of husband also comes with extreme emotional stress for the woman. This is exactly the time when many of them need emotional support and attention from a caring partner the most, who could talk with her and give her love, so that she feels herself “secure” in his arms. | ||
=== Seventh Restriction: She could not secure herself and her children financially through relationship with any other partner in the ‘Iddah === | |||
Islam critics point out that the Hadith of Furay'ah (which has already been mentioned above) proves that a woman has to stay in the waiting period in the house of her deceased husband, even though he left no maintenance money for her. | |||
* And women in Islamic society are poorly educated. | |||
<br /> | * And Islamic society also does not provide women with job opportunities too, but she has to face so many hurdles in doing a job outside. | ||
* Thus, the best bet for such a divorced/widow woman (even if she is pregnant) is to get another partner and get herself and her children financially secured in this way. | |||
* But Islam has also completely blocked woman this opportunity too. Neither other men are allowed to see her, nor to meet her and decide if they could come into the relationship, nor they could make any proposal to them. | |||
* She is all alone during the ‘Iddah period to financially secure herself and her children.<br /> | |||
=== | ===Islam Advocates: Strict 'restrictions' are placed upon the divorced woman during the 'Iddah due to the danger of sin=== | ||
But Islam critics don't agree with this excuse, while: | |||
*If normal Muslim women (or even the virgin Muslim girls) are allowed to go outside to entertain themselves in the Parks, and for picnic, and attend the social gatherings, and visit their relatives, and sleep in their parent's home, and attend the funerals of their parents and they don't indulge into sin, why then a widow or a divorced woman will indulge in the sin for doing these same things? | |||
*If normal Muslim women (or even the virgin Muslim girls) are allowed to go outside to entertain themselves in the Parks, and for picnic, and attend the social gatherings, and visit their relatives, and sleep in their parent's home, and attend the funerals of their parents and they don't indulge into sin, why then a divorced woman will indulge in the sin for doing these same things? | |||
*And if normal Muslim women (or even the virgin Muslim girls) are allowed to use the Kohl in their eyes, and parfum, and comb their hairs, and use the jewelry, and to wear good clothes, and use henna, or to wash their faces with Aloe, and still they don't indulge into sin, why then a divorced woman will indulge in the sin for doing the same thing? | *And if normal Muslim women (or even the virgin Muslim girls) are allowed to use the Kohl in their eyes, and parfum, and comb their hairs, and use the jewelry, and to wear good clothes, and use henna, or to wash their faces with Aloe, and still they don't indulge into sin, why then a divorced woman will indulge in the sin for doing the same thing? | ||
===Muhammad copied this illogical practice of ‘Iddah from the pre-Islamic period of so-called Ignorance=== | ===Muhammad copied this illogical practice of ‘Iddah from the pre-Islamic period of so-called Ignorance=== | ||