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==Reason for 'iddah of a widow== | ==Reason for 'iddah of a widow== | ||
Many Islamic du'aah, shaykhs, and ulemaa' argue that the reason for the 4 month and 10 days long 'iddah of a widow is to ''''mourn'''<nowiki/>' the death of the husband.<ref>Reason for 4 months 10 days long Iddah of a widow [https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/88684/rights-of-a-deceased-husband-on-his-wife]</ref> Yet it should be noted that there is no obligation of any “mourning” upon a man if the wife dies. There is a clear a double standard vis-a-vis the same situation involving a man and a woman: | |||
*Husband is totally free to marry a new wife the same night, without any 'iddah | *Husband is totally free to marry a new wife the same night, without any 'iddah | ||
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Muhammad in the hadith of Sunan Abu Dawud justifies the practice in this manner: | Muhammad in the hadith of Sunan Abu Dawud justifies the practice in this manner: | ||
{{Quote|{{Abudawud||2158|darussalam}}|The Messenger of Allah said: It is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the last day '''to water what another has sown with his water (meaning intercourse with a woman who is pregnant from her previous husband).'''}} | {{Quote|{{Abudawud||2158|darussalam}}|The Messenger of Allah said: It is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the last day '''to water what another has sown with his water (meaning intercourse with a woman who is pregnant from her previous husband).'''}} | ||
Islam critics | Islam critics objectsthat this is a scientific mistake, while: | ||
*Science is very clear if woman has already become pregnant, then other man could do as much sex as possible, but his sperms are not going to have any effects upon the fetus (i.e. he is not going to water the fetus from previous man). No DNA changes are going to take place in the fetus due to the sex. These were the concepts of times of ignorance, and Muhammad took this concept from them. | *Science is very clear if woman has already become pregnant, then other man could do as much sex as possible, but his sperms are not going to have any effects upon the fetus (i.e. he is not going to water the fetus from previous man). No DNA changes are going to take place in the fetus due to the sex. These were the concepts of times of ignorance, and Muhammad took this concept from them. | ||
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*The pregnant woman is alone after the death of her husband, and she is financially very weak. | *The pregnant woman is alone after the death of her husband, and she is financially very weak. | ||
*What if the deceased husband left no money for her and the baby? | *What if the deceased husband left no money for her and the baby? | ||
*And it is impossible for her to go to the work outside while | *And it is impossible for her to go to the work outside while car rying the baby in her belly. | ||
*A woman is in a state of extreme emotion during the pregnancy. This is exactly the time when she needs emotional support the most from a partner, who could take care of her, or of her father/mother/family, but she is compelled to stay at the husband's house. | *A woman is in a state of extreme emotion during the pregnancy. This is exactly the time when she needs emotional support the most from a partner, who could take care of her, or of her father/mother/family, but she is compelled to stay at the husband's house. | ||
*She is compelled to face all these difficulties 'alone' till the birth of the baby. | *She is compelled to face all these difficulties 'alone' till the birth of the baby. |